Another hot zone is your lady’s fourchette. It’s a tiny ‘lip’ located below her vaginal opening, where her inner labia meet at the bottom.

Plus, taking time to communicate shows you care. Your lady will appreciate knowing her lover is serious about delighting her! I think many women would agree that getting fingered feels phenomenal,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. “Fingers can give much more focused, deliberate, and intense stimulation than any other body part.” For me, getting fingered often feels even better than receiving oral sex. That’s because the stimulation is so direct and intense. Plus, as Harris reminds us , “the entire vulva is a potential erogenous zone.” Lavish attention on every crevice to intensify your partner’s arousal. Good lube! Lots of lube! Replenished often! Vaginas don’t always lubricate themselves on cue, sometimes they only produce a bit of natural lubrication, and sometimes they don’t lubricate themselves at all, even when the vagina-haver feels very turned on.

To bring me to the brink of ecstasy that morning, my boyfriend didn’t even need to take off his boxer shorts. He prompted my delicious climax using only his hands. While definitions of what constitutes sex have long varied, here at Foria, we are firm advocates and believers that whatever feels fun, intimate, and sexy to you can and should qualify as “sex” — with you in control of deciding. Fingering” is a slightly adolescent term for what can be a wonderful thing – stimulating the vagina from the inside. When we’re fingering someone with a vulva the right way, it’s almost like playing an instrument; we’re in control, using our own sensitive appendages to access their most sensitive places, propelling them to new dimensions of bliss. (Not at all like fumbling in a closet after prom, we hope.)

To intensify her pleasure, use your free hand to stimulate the head of her clitoris at the same time.Although clitoral stimulation is typically what feels best, you still want to get other parts of the body involved. Play with the breasts, thighs, and hips. You can also take teasing breaks away from the clitoris. Try dipping one or two fingers into the vagina. If you’re dextrous, you can even try fingering the vagina with one hand, and her clitoris with the other. Take your time

For instance, running an ice cube along your partner’s inner thigh while you finger them with the other can serve as a form of erotic temperature play known to turn up the heat and increase sensitivity for a more intense experience. With enough practice, fingering can become one of the most powerful skills in your sexual repertoire. You can use it in conjunction with other intimate acts, or you can dedicate whole sex sessions to it. Nicole suggests sitting on your knees for greater range of motion and easier full-body exploration, getting on all fours for increased leg and pelvic muscle tension (which can intensify sensations in those areas), and sitting in a chair for better access to the vulva. “Making love to yourself can be just as adventurous as making love to someone else,” she says. Knowing that you have novel positions to look forward to can also up your masturbation anticipation, so the experience is even more pleasurable when you finally get yourself alone. But, along with feeling good, fingering can have handfuls of health and relationship benefits, too. As I was shooting with Ilford HP5+ 400 in broad daylight with my pinhole camera, I didn't really have enough exposure time. I remember this was less than 3 sec and I had to use my fingers to open and close the pinhole just like the action of a shutter. Unfortunately, my fingers were not fast enough, you could see a part of index finger at the lower right hand corner of the frame. I thought about cropping it out. But in the end, I wanted to leave it there for the realism.For example, fingering feels best for me when my boyfriend focuses on the external parts of my genitals.