Your story raises a number of issues, the foremost being the degree to which you wish to take control over your own life rather than simply be a puppet in the hands of others. Jeremy has a master’s degree in law from Oxford University. A banker of 37 years who worked in 3 continents, he has been training with Dr Holmes for the last 10 years as co-lecturer and, occasionally, as co-therapist, especially with clients whose financial concerns intrude into their daily lives Anal sex will not widen your anus (at least, not for very long). It will not change how you defecate (though you might feel like you have to go right after. If so, go to the bathroom!). As a general rule, if anything hurts, stop. If there’s blood, stop. Go very slowly and use SO MUCH lube. Damage to the rectum (small tears or fissures) can occur during anal sex (usually from not using enough lube), so be aware of pain and don’t ignore it. To make enemas your friend. If you write to us again in more detail, we may be able to be more helpful.

Once on the toilet Valerie provided me some old Sherema magazines to read, and to my surprised stayed and talked to me while I expelled most of the enema. I liked that, and found it made the experience even more erotic. As full of feces and water as I was it made expelling feel even better than usual. Re: I don't believe punishment enemas should ever hurt -- boojoo (unreal), 00:26:38 11/16/13 Sat [1] When I had called Valerie to make the appointment she had asked me a few questions to be sure I really understood what an enema was, and I had assured her I did. Now we discussed some of the formalities, and then I was shown to the treatment room. Apparently you are not a free agent in this matter as you seem to think you have to get permission from your uncle, the facilitator of your first meeting with Ana (you are silent about Ana’s influence in any decision).Even if emotional pain can sometimes be more intense than physical pain, I think you can handle whatever comes up with your uncle either by yourself or via the help of someone (we volunteer!!) Women do not ‘lose’ their clitorises,” says Dr. Torres. “The majority of the clitoris is located inside the body, but women recognize the ‘clitoral glans’ as the clitoris. This may become smaller with age, making it seem as though the clitoris has disappeared. But let me be clear: The clitoris never goes away.” our first bag enemas -- joanne & sandra (cousins) (our enema bag introduction), 04:53:13 06/26/13 Wed [2]

Quite what your uncle’s role is in your life is unclear. Maybe your parents are abroad, or he is the rich member of the family – we don’t know since you haven’t told us. However, he does seem a Svengali-like influence on you, if not only did he arrange for you to meet Ana in the first instance but you think you require his approval to end matters with her. I was very ready for the enema, and I realized Valerie know what she was doing, and that this was probably going to be very good. I still didn’t expect her to get the entire tube inside me, and I knew I couldn’t take the full contents of the bag. Together, they have written two books: Love Triangles: Understanding the Macho-Mistress Mentality and Imported Love: Filipino-Foreign Liaisons.As for your fear of being discovered, FLEET, Dr. Torres says you should be able to rely on your doc’s professionalism. “I have not seen many colonoscopies, so I would not know a physician’s ability to determine a person’s level of enema activity,” says Dr. Torres. “But as a physician who prides herself in building trust with patients, I would never disclose my knowledge of sexual activities that may make my patient uncomfortable or embarrassed unless there is a concern for her health or it directly affects her care.” If the two of you have a lot of experience with enemas, you can put the paddle to work while she's holding it. She has to be comfortable holding large enemas, though, or there will be "leakage" problems. A butt plug might be useful here, but I've never tried one. You may be a newly minted adult at 18, but you do not consent to what is happening. In addition, enemas can be harmful. We don’t mention them because people usually make fun of them. The reason is a whole topic in itself.

If it would really and truly kill you if your doc figured it out, FLEET, how about a face-and-rump-saving white lie? Mention the fact that you’re administering enemas to yourself, leaving the masturbate-as-you-expel bit out, and ask your doc if that’s a problem. “She can ask her doctor an ‘innocent’ question such as ‘When I feel constipated, I give myself an enema. Is that dangerous?’” says Dr. Torres. “No need to mention masturbation, and the doctor’s answer may allay her other concerns.” —Dan To stop seeing Ana despite anything your uncle may say or if that too is not viable for whatever reason; Ana seems to enjoy sex with you when she gives you an enema beforehand. In other words, giving you enemas before having sex with you seems to be a fetish. You don’t need to douche (and please do not put hand sanitizer in your ass!) or give yourself an enema before having anal sex. All you have to do is take a shower beforehand. Use a mild soap and rinse. That’s it. And even showering is a courtesy. I’ve given and received plenty of anal fun-times while not, shall we say, shower fresh, and no one died. (Except that we died and went to heaven.) In general, the more recently you’ve had a solid bowel movement, the cleaner your rectal cavity will be. (This is yet another benefit of eating lots of fibrous vegetables!) If there are foods that you know give you gas, avoid them before doing the deed. Obviously some people are more squeamish about butt stuff than others and you should be sensitive to that — but don’t get so caught up in cleanliness that you forget sex is generally messy and bodies are both a miracle and, at times, kind of gross. Notice: Copies of your message may remain on this and other systems on internet. Please be respectful.

Valerie stood up, and then turned so I could see the distention of her belly. She said she liked to hold it for a few minutes, and walk around a bit, which she did before going to the toilet. I asked if I could stay with her while she expelled. She said she was a little uncomfortable with it, and might ask me to leave the room. She let me stay with her for the entire expulsion. I didn’t actually get to watch it come out, but I did talk with her for the entire time, and got a look at the contents of the toilet before she flushed. While she wasn’t as full as I had been, the enema had been a great success. However, you have decided – as is your right since this is supposed to be a consensual relationship – that the dubious charms of regular enemas outweigh the joys of sex with Ana and are prepared to break off the relationship. So far, so good. When the door opened, I started down the hall. I saw her step out of the door at the far end. I didn’t know her name yet, but I could see she was wearing a nurses uniform, and that she had long brown hair, and was of medium height. As I got close I could see that she was a pretty woman, and that the top of the uniform revealed a little more cleavage than you would see in any hospital. I immediately found her attractive, and as I introduced myself she lead me inside. She told me her name was Valerie. Valerie took off the nurses uniform, and her panties, but left on her brassiere and garter belt. She gave me rubber gloves to wear, placed a towel on the treatment table, and then lay on her left side. Valerie has a beautiful rounded behind, and as she knew I had quite a bit of enema experience, she let me do the lubrication. First I prepared the tube, lubricating the entire length with Vaseline, then I prepared to lubricate Valerie.

As your uncle seems to be suggesting, there are worse things for many 18-year-olds than regular sex with a beautiful rich girl (let’s call her Ana) and if the price is having to have an enema (or smearing each other with honey, wearing latex, caning etc.), clearly some fetishes are more challenging than others. So I guess I am a little more hard line than Mr Baer: If Ana agrees to still have sex despite no longer giving you enemas, then that’s terrific.Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your Valerie placed a towel on the leather covered treatment table, gave me a pillow, and had me relax while she filled the Sherema bag, which can hold over a gallon! I was ready when Valerie returned, the bag was bulging, and she had attached a long colon tube that looked to be about a 36fr. She hung the bag, put on rubber gloves and greased the colon tube to it’s full length with Vaseline. It is normal for the vagina, and the parts within and around the vagina, to atrophy with age,” says Dr. Torres. “And women who have gone through menopause have very little estrogen. For the lady parts, estrogen is crucial in upkeeping the healthy, youthful appearance of vaginal and labial tissues as well as for the laxity of the vagina.”