Humans are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. If you feel torn, upset, or confused after contact with your mother, then you deserve to have the answers. In this emotionally charged how-to guide, you'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll discover eye-opening lessons about: The mask you're wearing.

That internalized maternal voice will continue to undermine her accomplishments and talents, unless there is some kind of intervention.When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. What can you do with a boss who bullies, a spouse who yells, or a friend who frequently bursts into tears? not being able to say ‘no’ (“Somehow, I always end up being a doormat, doing too much, and I get used or disappointed in the end”), or wanting a relationship so intense that the other person backs off. But as Forward explains in Mothers Who Can't Love, it is possible to heal the mother wound and find help and validation. Is there really a natural and unconscious impulse orchestrated by nature to love and care for a child?

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred, these phrases will act like a referee coming in to stop a fight.You deserved to be cherished, but your mother was a disturbed, unhappy woman who took out her frustrations on you. To quote the book Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life, “ If Mother is always saying, ‘You’re stupid,’ then you’re stupid.