The possibility of the availability is a term used to describe the subjective measure of a woman's sexual availability.

These men don’t know how to assess or interact with women, and don’t see women as people or as equals; and the causal direction is more likely going from the latter to the former. Because of this reality, Nice Guys create adult relationships that mirror the dynamics of their dysfunctional childhood relationships. So when I say “you should not take the wrong way” my declaration that “I have a lot of problems with psychology as a science,” I am telling you to make use of one of those things psychology has gotten right: don’t let yourself succumb to the defective natural reasoning of black and white thinking; and therefore, do not stumble into the pit of assuming “psychology has a lot of problems” entails “all psychology is full of shit and therefore I can dismiss and ignore every single thing it has to offer.Because it will lead to exactly the same problem he thought he was solving: someone following his advice will expect it to “work,” and it won’t. If they still, after all that, are a terrible partner or you don’t really like being with that person, don’t.

Covey drew on education and business science, and though it’s really also just a philosophical advice book, not a science-based treatise, I find it lacks the resulting pitfalls of Glover, and offers more complete and healthy advice. He never explains why some kids don’t go this route—indeed, I expect, most kids don’t develop “toxic shame,” quite a lot don’t become “Nice Guys,” and I know countless kids of almost all ages who have no difficulty correctly identifying others as to blame for what they do to or fail to do for them, rather than “themselves. To answer his unscientific anecdotes with my own, I benefited tremendously from being left alone and allowed to make my own decisions and solve my own problems when I was young, as long as I demonstrated I could and my parents were always there when I needed them—and in fact that is what I think actual current science says parents should do: teach kids to be independent, train them for adulthood; rather than obsessively avoid giving them some dubious Freudian “abandonment issues. The way he has formulated this, causally all human beings ( every boy…and, take note, every girl) should be exhibiting Glover’s Nice Guy Syndrome. When the nice guy does something good for himself he is doing something that implies he is valuable.landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show.

These men have been conditioned to believe that if they are ‘nice’, they will be loved, get their needs met, and have a smooth life. By taking matters into their own hands – by practicing healthy masturbation – recovering Nice Guys can change the most basic dynamics that shape the bigger picture of how they do sex. Because most Nice Guys believe they are bad for being sexual, or believe that other people will think they're bad, sexual impulses have to be kept hidden from view.But one of the many things psychology has gotten right is documenting the fact that the human brain is mostly garbage. Most people just accept where they are, and act as if they have little power in shaping an exciting, productive, and fulfilling life.