It’s good to be disciplined and purposeful in daily life, but when it disconnects you from your larger purpose you lose your freedom and perspective. When you know your core and are aligned with it, everything you do becomes an expression of your purpose. Your work and your intimacy become opportunities to give your fullest gifts and to enjoy the act of giving. You know you want to hear Deida’s opinion on sex. So let’s talk about the physical aspect of relationship a bit! China Sourcing Agent: Source any high quality products from China through our partners Fulfillbot ! Women are driven to pursue love—their path to fullness is surrender, rather than release. In sex, their desire is to be filled, connected, unified, and made whole. That’s why they’re disappointed when you stop holding them after your orgasm; you’ve achieved the freedom of release, but she’s achieved the fullness of surrender and wants to remain One.

Boys don’t cry—according to the old macho ideal. According to the Way of the Superior Man, they do when they need to, because it is much better to live with a hurting, than a closed heart. Don’t act: stay and act from inside the wound of pain. As men, we’re driven to pursue freedom—to push through all forms of constraint, release ourselves, and experience the total freedom of complete emptiness. Our deepest motivation is to face death and overcome it. Pretty soon you’ve built a wall between yourself and the people you hope to serve, and part of the reason is you’re afraid to see what’s really going on. Time for another generalization: there are “hot” and “cool” women. If you need a stereotype, dark-skinned, brunette, red-headed, Korean, and Polynesian women are hot, and blonde, light-skinned, Japanese, and Chinese women are cool. It is irritating to have a hot woman when you need someone to cool you, and vice versa. Understand the temperature of feminine energy and choose wisely. Part Four: What Women Really Want In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives—from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships—to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.I hope you enjoyed this video, this subject matter is exactly the sort of thing we cover in the Awakened Man men’s group, so if you want to join in our weekly zoom calls and meditations as well as 24/7 chatroom, the link is here.

Don’t stay in your comfort zone. Freedom is all about pushing your limits. Lean just beyond your edge and do this constantly. In everything you do. We can understand women from the inside, by leaving the comfort of our traditional roles as men. Some of the most eye opening experiences I’ve had have been bringing straight men out to gay bars to get hit on. If you want to understand masculinity and polarity, go to an aggressive gay bar on a weekend and wear something cute. The masculine is always seeking release from constraint into freedom,” says Deida, which is why a man must always be ready to own his darkest desires. Without doing this, he is purposefully limiting his freedom, which, as we said above is possibly the basic masculine trait. I absolutely value everything I learned, but was it worth all the baggage it came with? I don’t know. I still feel shame when women hold space for me, or when I do things that make me seem weak or vulnerable. I’m secretly worried that women only value me for my masculinity.The Superior Man knows his priorities and pursues his purpose. In this section, you’ll learn the difference in priority between feminine and masculine, why you need a purpose and how to find it, and why you should prioritize it. Seek Release, Let Her Seek Fullness Non-Fiction Books» Family & Health» Relationships & Families: Advice & Issues» Sex & Sexuality: Advice & Issues The mark of a true classic is that it becomes more relevant with the passage of time Twenty years ago, David Deida wrote The Way of the Superior Man share lessons on how a man can grow spiritually while passionately tussling with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire, Today, men of all ages continue to struggle with these universal challenges, and the practical insights found in this book will help each one of us to give the gifts we were born to give. It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart, writes David Deida It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine Including an all-new introduction by the author, The Way of the Superior Man invites a new generation of men to participate in the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.” The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida – eBook Details If you believe in the work we are doing here at The Good Men Project, please join like-minded individuals in The Good Men Project Premium Community.

The book also repeatedly makes the point that women are in a constant state of testing their men. As if it is the woman’s role in the relationship to be indecisive, emotional, and petulant. This continues to drive home established stereotypes; Men are not emotional, and men who are must have a more feminine energy. This doesn’t help move our conversation forward when we are trying to teach boys to be their whole selves, strong enough to try but also courageous enough to ask for help, calm enough to control their temper but also open enough to express their fear, sadness, and joy. There’s a part of me that would love to live on a mountain and write all day too — yet there’s an irresponsibility to putting transformational work into the world without closely monitoring it’s impact. You have a unique gift to share, and you can’t fulfill your greatest potential if you never try. In this section, we’ll explore the masculine core, and you’ll learn how to embrace and embody your true, masculine self, so you can channel your energy into giving your greatest gift, today. Engage Wholeheartedly With Woman and World A man must cultivate a polarized relationship to his woman and his world: this is the only way for him to remain in relationship with either. If you deny your desire for the feminine, you depolarize yourself, and that leads to impotence and purposelessness. One of the most successful podcasts for men (The New Man Podcast) literally stole a phrase coined by David Deida — beyond the macho jerk and the new age wimp — and used it as their tag line.You Are Always Searching for Freedom 36 Own Your Darkest Desires 37 She Wants the “Killer” in You 38 She Needs Your Consciousness to Match Her Energy Part Six: Feminine Attractiveness Yet while the mainstream culture has embodied a destructive form of feminism that has debased men, it’s not like the world of men’s work and the manosphere is one united whole. There are many competing voices each articulating a increasingly jaded view on the state of our culture, gender relations and the world. I can sympathise with the Red-Pilled Chad in this regard, but that’s probably only because masculinity is so debased and man are so feminine today, so that attitude redresses the balance, however as a long-term approach I do think the Superior Man approach is better as it speaks to the whole of a man – the King and the Warrior, as the red-pilled chad does, but also the inner Magician and the Lover.